Turn Down the Volume

Noise. It is all around us. From the radio or TV blaring in the background to the latest pitch man hawking the next thing you have to have.

 It is hard as a parent not to have "noise" interfere with the decisions we need to make as parents. Whether it is a well-meaning extended family member or the latest book on parenting there lots of people or resources telling us how we should parent our children. Unfortunately, many of them have no idea what it is like to go through what you do on a daily basis.

 Now this is not to say that you should not take helpful information that others share with you either in verbal or written format. What I am saying is that we do not ignore our own internal voice in this process. You know your child in a way that no one else can. Your unique insights about your child is a strength and can be utilized in making decisions regarding your care for them.

 What this means more specifically is that instead of looking outside of ourselves that we are looking within ourselves to tap what we already know. One of the best way to do this is to set aside time to reflect on the decisions you are facing with your children. This does not have to be a particularly long period of time. You should focus for period of time reflecting on what is important to you and what some of the next steps might be in caring for your child.

 It is important to give yourself the space to engage in this activity. With all of things that are going on in your life, sometimes carving out this time is one of the more difficult things to do. But I can assure you, that it will pay dividends to help you remain more focused on what is important.

 Take 10 minutes of quiet time today to reflect on what you would like to reinforce, support, or change as a parent and identify one or two steps you can take this week to implement a more intentional plan as a parent. Write them down or stick them in your phone.

 This brief period of reflection will put you one step closer to being a proactive parent versus a reactive parent.